al-Khansa' bint Khidham

Khansa' bint Khidham ibn Khalid al-Ansariyya of Banu Amr ibn Awf; her hadith is established in the Muwatta: her father married her off against her will, so she came to the Messenger of God and he annulled her marriage ¹.

Ibn Hajar notes disagreement in the chain: Malik related it from Abd al-Rahman ibn al-Qasim from his father from Abd al-Rahman and Mujamma', sons of Zayd ibn Haritha — and al-Thawri diverged in chain and text, saying: from Abdullah ibn Yazid ibn Wadi'a from Khansa', that she was a virgin then, as Ibn Abd al-Barr states; Ibn Manda said Ibn Uyayna related it agreeing with Malik, and Yahya ibn Sa'id related it both mursal and connected ¹.

Through Ibn Ishaq from Hajjaj ibn al-Sa'ib from his father from his grandmother Khansa': she had been widowed of a man, her father married her to a man of Banu Amr ibn Awf, and Abu Lubaba ibn Abd al-Mundhir then sought her; their affair rose to the Messenger of God, who bade her father let her follow her heart — she married Abu Lubaba and is the mother of his son al-Sa'ib. Ahmad recorded it ².

Ibn Manda recorded from Abu Hurayra that Khansa' bint Khidham's father married her to a man while she was mistress of her own affair; she disliked it, came to the Prophet and he said: "your affair is in your hand" — Abu Lubaba then sought her and she bore him al-Sa'ib ². Ibn Sa'd recorded from Nafi' ibn Jubayr: "Khansa' bint Khidham was widowed of her husband; her father married her off and she came to the Prophet saying: Messenger of God, my father outdid me, marrying me without telling me — he said: there is no marriage for him; marry whom you wish — so she married Abu Lubaba" ².

In some chains her name appears as "Khunas" (with a damma, lightened) ².