Umm Ruman

Umm Ruman bint Amir ibn Uwaymir, "wife of Abu Bakr al-Siddiq and mother of Abd al-Rahman and A'isha" ¹.

Abu Umar said: so Mus'ab traced her; others differed on the lineage from Amir back to Kinana, but agreed she is of Banu Ghanm ibn Malik ibn Kinana ¹. Ibn Ishaq said: her name is Zaynab bint Abd ibn Dahman, of Banu Firas ibn Ghanm ¹. Ibn Hajar mentions it is established in Sahih al-Bukhari that Abu Bakr called her in the story of al-Jufna "sister of Banu Firas"; her name is disputed — said to be Zaynab, or Da'd ¹.

Al-Waqidi said: Umm Ruman al-Kinaniyya was under Abdullah ibn al-Harith ibn Sakhbara al-Azdi, who had come to Mecca and allied with Abu Bakr before Islam; he died leaving her after she bore him al-Tufayl, and Abu Bakr succeeded him ¹. Ibn Sa'd said she was wife of al-Harith ibn Sakhbara ibn Jarthuma, tracing him to al-Azd; she bore him al-Tufayl. He came from al-Sarat with his wife and son, allied with Abu Bakr and died at Mecca; Abu Bakr married her — and she became Muslim, pledged and emigrated early ¹.

Al-Zubayr narrates from A'isha that when the Prophet emigrated he left them behind with his daughters; once settled he sent Zayd ibn Haritha and with him Abu Rafi', and Abu Bakr sent Abdullah ibn Urayqit and wrote to Abdullah ibn Abi Bakr to carry Umm Ruman and Asma' — they happened on Talha intending to emigrate and all set out together ¹.

Ibn Sa'd relates from al-Qasim ibn Muhammad that when Umm Ruman was lowered into her grave the Prophet said: "whoever would like to look at a woman of the wide-eyed houris, let him look at Umm Ruman" ². Abu Umar said the Prophet went down into her grave, prayed forgiveness for her and said: "my God, nothing is hidden from You of what Umm Ruman met for Your sake and Your messenger's" ².